Celtic storyteller, Michael Meade, has put together a collection of ancient mythic stories with enough modern insight to create something of a map of the journey taken by men from boyhood. In Men and the Water of Life: Initiation and the Tempering of Men (1993) says:
“When all else is gone and there’s nothing left to lose, then what is left and what cannot be completely lost or even thrown away is truly one’s self. What was abandoned by others remains part of the genuine self and cannot be abandoned by me; rather it comes out in times of loss. And what stays secret inside of everyone is that somewhere he is a king. Somewhere she is a queen.”
I feel as though I have given up many things and mostly it feels ok. Maybe even good.